It's been exactly 2 years since i've been licensed to drive! How time flies! Everyday, i've been reminding myself to be a safe driver (though there's the occasional speeding:/) I strongly believe if every driver plays their part in being a responsible driver (i.e not beating the red light,change lane properly, no tail-gating, signal early to let others know of your intention to turn/change lane etc), this world will be a better place. It may sound naive, but shouldn't last week's Ferrari incident serve as a reminder for us about the dire consequences if one drink and drive and worst, speed and beat the red light?
That aside, yesterday i had a conversation with Hannah and it struck upon me that family upbringing is very important. To summarise, the whole conversation was that Grandma refused to let her go down to the clubhouse at 9pm to join her friends to play sparkles because Grandma thinks it is dangerous and she's skeptical towards Hannah's friends. Hannah, being just a growing kid felt very upset because she thinks Grandma was being unreasonable.
For that moment, i could totally relate to Hannah. I had the same experience when i was young ( and even till now since my parents, esp my dad can be very cynical at times). I gave this little girl of mine a hug and asked if she wants to go badly, if she does, i'd accompany her just so Grandma will be at ease. But instead, she shook her head and said she didn't want to make Grandma unhappy. I was taken by surprise, this girl of mine, who's only 9 bothered to care how my Grandma would feel. I mean, at my age i probably wouldn't be as considerate as Hannah!
I'm really proud of this kid! But it also triggered a series of thoughts.
- What if Hannah grows up to be a parent and gets very skeptical towards her kids' friends/neighbours?
- Will there ever be a day where Hannah start resenting the fact that Grandma/her parents are too strict with her.
- What will i do if now i'm a parent and my kid pose me the exact question Hannah asked (about whether she can join her friends at the clubhouse?)
Of course, there's two sides to a coin. Because i am still not a parent (and Hannah isn't my daughter) i'd think its safe to let her go since the clubhouse is just infront of the house's balcony and finding her wouldn't be a difficult task.
But still, i feel that parents/gramps need to understand times have changed and kids these days are no longer like what we used to be. Apparently it seems like kids these days listen to reasons. Learning to let go at times is vital, because if kids were to be controlled too tightly, they'd probably turn defiant. I'm a living example:/ However, they must be firm when the kids are getting beyond control. I'm glad Hannah's a sensible girl, though she may be a little naughty and a little insensitive at times. But, who don't make mistakes right? I just hope this girl will grow and learn from her mistakes. She's got a long way to go!:D
And of course, i'm thankful that she's still a little angel at times!
Till then
Hannah celebrating her 9th Birthday!:)